Time Magazine Asks Moms to Judge If We’re “Mom Enough”?

Shame on them. Isn’t there enough competition among moms already? First, it was the debate over whether we could work outside of our homes and still care well for our children or if we needed to stay home for our children to thrive . With 70% of moms currently working outside of our homes to contribute to our families’ financial support, I guess they had to find something new for us to judge ourselves and each other about.

So, they picked how we parent, implying that only the toughest and most determined moms/parents could succeed at attachment parenting. The goal of attachment parenting is to create a secure bond between mom and baby through breastfeeding on demand, co-sleeping and baby-wearing (keeping babies close to moms in a sling, on her lap while working, etc.) While parents are not encouraged to neglect their needs for sleep, nourishment, restorative activities-foundational self-care skills, it seems likely.

More important, the goal of all successful parenting is to create a secure bond between parent and child, whatever approach. In general, if we are attentive to our child’s needs while encouraging them to develop their independence to safely explore and master the world with your support, all will be fine. Flexibility and a willingness to grow and change ourselves is key. Finally, the research consistently shows that parents must balance their needs with those of their children for the best health outcomes.

Let’s not take the bait from Time Magazine and get caught in judging ourselves or other moms. There’s nothing to be gained. Whether we compete over how we raise our children or bringing the best school snack, losing the invaluable support of other moms isn’t worth it. Not for me!  The poet Rumi said, “Out beyond ideas of right-and wrong-doing, there’s a field. I’ll meet you there.”

This week is women’s health week and the week before our self-care challenge. Let’s join arms together to declare that women deserve to make their health and well-being a priority by making your health and well-being a priority this week and next. Now, that’s a battle worth fighting.

5 thoughts on “Time Magazine Asks Moms to Judge If We’re “Mom Enough”?

  1. On Mother’s Day my adult children made me breakfast and as we sat down to eat we discussed that cover. None of my children have children of their own but they brought up some good point.This is what they said Shame on that mother for exploiting that child and picturing him on the cover. He will be teased and bullied the rest of his life-mom’s don’t do that to their children.They were not as concerned about the breast feeding but the exploitation of the child and the harm the mother placed him in. How selfish she was and they all felt that was not what a true mother would do.

  2. Great article! I long for the days when women can just support one another – no matter our “parenting styles.”

  3. First, how great that your adult children made you breakfast. What a treat and how good to know they care. There have been many comments about the cover mom’s exploiting her child and not doing what was in his best interest. As moms/parents, we must always ask ourselves, who are we doing this for and what effect will it have on my child? This is true maternal/parental love.

  4. One more thing: I sometimes see the media as the big bully on the playground, forcing some of these “fights” if women have been quiet long enough. It’s pretty sad.

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