Regarding self-sacrifice as a badge of honor comes from our very best intentions. We’ve been told that when we put others’ needs first, we’ll feel so good about ourselves that our needs will diminish. While this is often true about our desires, it is dangerously incorrect about our needs.
Our most important need is for love. Many of us have been taught to look for others to meet thi needs: parents, siblings, friends, lovers and even our children. However, loving oneself begins from within, and not relying on our significant others to suppress their needs in favor of ours. More importantly, there is nobody who can love us the way we need to be loved — with one exception: US!
Love is best demonstrated with time and attention. We must give ourselves all the time and attention we need, so that our soul is overflowing with love. Free from unmet needs, our loved ones will sense the pure joy we derive from being with them. They won’t feel defensive about disappointing us or act out in order to get our attention.
Only we know what we need. Only we can provide it. We must make the time to check-in and discern our wants from our needs. Extending love to ourselves through self-care so our souls may soar.
Today’s author Laura Nash is a consultant and Chopra-certified meditation instructor who teaches individuals and companies “peace of mind” skills. Visit her an http://www.lauranash.com.